Prenuptial Planner.pdf

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J OURNAL

UNIVERSITY

B A C K PAGE

Thursday, February 20, 2003

E D I T O R

Kelsey Blackwell, 865-8443

Daters:

Beware

of duds

As spring approaches, love is in the air and

single college girls everywhere are becoming

serious about snagging that perfect mate.

Before the games begin, I believe it

necessary to warn those looking for “that

special someone” of the potential undatable

duds that are ubiquitous throughout campus.

While I am no dating expert, I believe no one

should needlessly suffer through the rotten

rendezvous I’ve experienced during my dating

career.

I have given pseudonyms to past dates who I

would like to forget. Though their identities

are protected, the situations were real and

remain poignant in my memory.

Kevin

Kevin was a lot of fun. His only problem was

he suffered from a slight case of halitosis and

continually had food in his teeth.

Kevin was an amateur dater.

While hanging out with an amateur can be

fun, generally long-term relationships are

ruled out primarily for one reason. The level of

physical attraction most girls have with an

amateur is comparable to their desire to make-

out with their brothers.

Watch out girls, these guys are sensitive. If

you don’t return their phone calls for that

second date you risk breaking their hearts0 and

losing a good shopping partner.

Verdict — Date an amateur only if he knows

it’s nothing more than friendship, otherwise

steer clear.

Shawn

Shawn held a great conversation and was an

expert flirt. I did a double take, however, when

I noticed he was wearing a wedding ring.

Married daters believe society owes them a

favor for letting them get into a marriage that

has proven to be unsuccessful.

Most have gained weight since relaxing into

marriage but still consider themselves quite

handsome.

If turned down by a conquest, married daters

become defensive and pretend as if they never

had interest in dating you in the first place.

Watch out girls, married daters are never up

front with their girls. After the third date, if you

still don’t know where he lives, ask him why he’s

being so secretive. He just might come clean.

Verdict — Never date a married man. These

guys are the lowest of

the low and cheating is

sport. They’ll never be

true to one girl.

Leon

Leon was the guy who

would hit on you in

January, invite you on

date and then forget to

pick you up. Come

February you might run

into him and he would

reintroduce himself

because he’s forgotten

you’ve already met.

Leon was a serial dater.

To this type of guy, every girl is a potential date.

Serials think they are God’s gift to women and

by sharing their congeniality they believe they

are performing a community service. It doesn’t

take long to figure out who a serial dater is,

especially when you catch them in the library

using the same pickup lines they used on you

— twice. Watch out girls, these guys are

charming and might tempt you to make dinner

for them.

Verdict — If your date knows more girls on

campus than you do, check out ASAP.

Scott

Dating Scott was like interviewing for a job.

After returning home from his mission he was

looking for a wife with the right credentials.

These type of daters carry a checklist (at the

top of which is “likes to cook” and “plans to

bear more than four children”). While these

guys are perfect for girls who are ready to get

hitched, dates can be boring as they rattle off

relentlessly long details about their mission and

highlight the knowledge they obtained through

their experiences as an Eagle Scout. Watch out

girls, if you do find yourself swooning you

could be replaced by someone who better

meets his needs.

Verdict — Dating is acceptable but not for the

weak hearted. If you want to be in a wedding

gown by June, this is they guy for you.

Slade

Though we never dated, Slade sure gave it

his all to get my number. Though I don’t want

to sound harsh, Slade was slightly lower on the

totem pole of social standards and is

considered a desperate dater. To a desperate,

dating is like fishing. They’ll throw out their

bait all day but are lucky if they catch a girl.

Though repeatedly shut down, desperates are

never discouraged. After a bad day of

searching for a date at the library, they’re not

afraid to jump into the pool of untapped

resources at different location. Watch out girls,

Slades are nice, but not nice enough to date. If

you do end up getting tricked or are just too

nice to turn them down politely you might be

in for a bumpy ride.

Once these guys get a bite they are relentless.

It is impossible to tell them they don’t have a

chance with out being flat-out rude.

Verdict — Be nice but not encouraging. Tell

them you have a boyfriend.

Kelsey is the Accent Editor for the University

Journal she can be reached at

Raynee2000@hotmail.com.

What to do . . .

before saying ‘I do’

Prenuptial planner

He’s given the engagement ring and asked the question; she’s

delightfully said “Yes!” Spreading out tasks can the reduce the

mad-dash at the last minute.

By two months before

The bride and groom should:

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Find a caterer.

Prepare annoucement

for the newspaper.

The bride should:

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Set wedding date.

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Reserve wedding site.

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Make invitation list.

Enjoy bridal shower.

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Plan reception.

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Have bridal portrait taken.

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Discuss wedding cost.

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Make sure gown is ready.

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Select photographer.

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Purchase attendants’ gifts.

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Order invitations.

Purchase groom’s gift.

The groom should:

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Plan honeymoon and

make reservations.

Enjoy bachelor party.

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Arrange for a member of

clergy or a judge to

perform ceremony.

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Purchase gift for best man.

Purchase gift for the bride.

By two weeks before

The bride and groom should:

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Purchase wedding album.

Make post wedding plans

such as finding a house.

The bride should:

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Obtain marriage license.

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Place annoucement.

Choose attendants.

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Finish reception plans.

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Select dress.

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Make sure all invitations

are mailed.

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Pick dress for attendants.

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Complete trousseau.

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Pack belongings for move.

Purchase the groom’s ring.

The groom should:

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Verify honeymoon plans.

Select best man.

By one week before

The bride and groom should:

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Select ushers.

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Choose men’s attire.

Rehearse ceremony.

Buy bride’s wedding ring.

By one month before

The bride and groom should:

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Complete final checks.

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Move into new home.

Spend some time together

relaxing to calm jitters.

The bride should:

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Order flowers.

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Set up premarital exams.

Make personal preparations.

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Make arrangements for

out-of-town guests.

Pack for honeymoon.

The groom should:

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Finalize wedding and

reception plans.

Make personal preparations.

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Mail invitations.

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Pack for honeymoon.

ANNE McCONNELL/ UNIVERSITY JOURNAL

Shanna Hales, a senior sociology major from Duchesne, and Adam Hales, a

senior engineering major from Redmond, cut the wedding cake during their

reception. The Hales celebrated theirst first anniversary this month.

Purchase traveler’s checks.

Source: Checklist adapted from Uncommon Common Sense by Lynn Poulson,

a professor of home and family studies at Snow College.

Order cake.

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Are you ready?

Students relate their wedding experiences;

from finding ‘the one’ to planning the ceremony

GRAPHIC BY DAVID PAYSTRUP / UNIVERSITY JOURNAL

FOR YA

SOUL

KELSEY BLACKWELL

By KIRSTEN TATE

UNIVERSITY JOURNAL

keep in touch.” She said she didn’t know what would happen until he came home,

but that it ended up just being right.

“The feelings just grow and grow and you just grow closer, and he never annoyed me

and I didn’t get sick of him,” she said. “It wasn’t wonderland; he was just with it.”

Kelly Esplin, a junior elementary education major from Garland, got married on

Dec. 13, 2002. She said she knew her husband, Nick, was the one for her almost

the first time she saw him.

She said they met through a mutual friend and when he

walked into the room, she said she thought, “I could marry

him.”

“That thought freaked me out because I had just met him, so I

didn’t know why I was thinking that,” she said.

But she said she could just tell that he was right for her. She

had made a list of qualities she wanted in a husband, and she

said he was better than the list.

“We just match,” she said.

Once the right person is found and engagement is official,

planning for the big day begins.

Draney said planning for the future has been her favorite

aspect of the engagement so far.

“Planning where to live or little trips we can make when

we’re married is so fun,” she said. “Thinking of starting out

with each other, and knowing (I) have someone and I can stop

searching is great.”

Relationship TVshows like The Bachelor , Joe Millionaire and Blind Date draw

millions of viewers as Americans root for those searching for love.

Marriage is a part of life for more than one-third of SUU students. According to

records at the SUU Registrar’s Office, 2,129 students are married.

“That is an absurdly low number because when the men get

married, they don’t have to change their name, so they aren’t

usually recorded,” said Kathy Barrick, Registrar’s Office

secretary.

With so many people to choose, finding “the one” can be a

daunting task. For those who have found that right relationship,

however, everything just falls into place.

Allison Draney, a senior communication major from Sandy,

became engaged on Dec. 14, 2002, and said she just knew he

was the one for her by the feelings she had when she was with

and without her fiance.

“Everyday I knew more and more and I didn’t want to see

anyone else,” she said.

Draney and her fiance, Brock Swensen, have known each

other for three years, two of which he spent serving a mission

for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

She said he wasn’t “her missionary,” and when she saw him

off at the airport, she thought, “I’m done; now I just have to

ANNE McCONNELL / UNIVERSITY JOURNAL

Shanna and Adam Hales dance

during their reception that took

place in Duchesne.

See MARRIAGE, Page 9

Moms carry heav y load

SUU’s honors band

entertains Saturday

By KIRSTEN TATE

UNIVERSITY JOURNAL

many summer classes as I could,” Leavitt

said.

A college degree was important to Debbi

Van Drimmelen, a senior family and

consumer science major from Las Vegas,

which is why she said she

decided to finish school

after the birth of her first

child.

She said she thought it

would be helpful if she

ever needed it.

Van Drimmelen said her

biggest challenge is

juggling schedules with

her husband so they don’t

have to get a babysitter.

She said she and her husband have been

lucky so far because they have only had one

overlapping class.

Another challenge was the birth of her

daughter on Jan. 15. She said she got almost

a week off from school after the birth because

of a school holiday and no classes on Fridays.

Classes, homework, jobs and

extracurricular activities are usually enough

to make any student stress

out and scramble for more

time, but when marriage

and children are involved,

more time and energy are

required.

Despite the hard work

and time involved, going to

school to finish a degree as

a mother is important to

some women at SUU.

Finding time to do homework is one of the

biggest challenges for Autumn Leavitt, a

senior biology major from Blythe, Calif.

Her son was born the day after Spring

semester classes began, but since she is in her

last semester with only seven credits

remaining, she said graduating is important.

“When I found out I was pregnant I took as

By COLBY MITCHELL

UNIVERSITY JOURNAL

for two days and will rehearse a

total of 9 1 / 2 hours for a

performance that will last an

hour, Peterson said. He said

students rehearse so long

because they will work with a

guest conductor for whom they

have never played.

The concert takes place to

recruit freshman music majors to

SUU. Those students who have

committed to attend SUU will

also compete in a music

scholarship audition the day

before the concert, Peterson said.

SUU College of Performing &

Visual Arts plays host to the

event frequently.

The event will be $3 for students

and general public.

“When I found out

I was pregnant I

took as many

summer classes as

I could.”

— Autumn Leavitt

The SUU Honors Band will

perform its annual concert in the

Heritage Center Saturday at 7:30

p.m.

John Cody Birdwell, director of

bands and associate professor of

music at Texas Tech University,

will be the guest

conductor/clinician for the concert.

Eric Peterson, SUU assistant

professor of music and director

of bands, said the Honors Band

consists of 100 high school

juniors and seniors from Utah

and Nevada. He said the students

are selected by invitation.

The students are in Cedar City

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