PB_pt7.pdf

A Man’s Guide

part 7

Sex

Line

Deny

vs.

Justify

Female Mind

The

The Sex Line: Deny vs. Justify

eny / Justify is the SEXUAL dimension of a woman’s character type.

To me, this is the most important dimension, and it is the one that I pay

attention to the most in my interactions.

I will often build out my entire strategy based on this one dimension

alone, and if you really nail it, with master execution, the other two will

not matter nearly as much.

The reason is because our most predominant role in a woman’s life is

sexual. Sex is the reason why we all exist, and it is very primal and basic.

So pay attention.

Let’s talk first about the conflict a little bit. Most, and if I had to put a

number on it, probably 95% of women have experienced SOME level of

sexual trauma – or negative feelings and emotions associated with sex and

This is something that is a challenge to understand as men.

The analogy I like to use is being surrounded by a bunch of men, who are

all bigger and stronger than you, more aggressive than you, and also want

to have sex with you.

lack of control about sex.

Imagine being in high security prison for rapists, where the average guy in

there is seven feet tall and three hundred and fifty pounds.

Ok – now, that is sometimes a DAILY experience for women, and as such

they have developed very sophisticated mental frameworks to keep

themselves in check.

In addition women HAVE had very scary encounters with men, and I don’t

want to get too in depth about this but basically they will get intimidating

looks from guys, unwanted advances, guys (sometimes close friends and

family members) trying to touch her, take their dick out and of course,

unfortunately this goes all the way up to full out rape and sexual assault.

Women will often recall at least one, but often more, traumatic events in

relation to men and sex.

But on the other hand – just like us, sex feels VERY GOOD for women – and

they want it… so this creates a VERY strong conflict for her, and one she

must reconcile.

She does make the conflict easier to deal with by either DENYING, or

JUSTIFYING.

Let’s start with Deniers.

A Denier will essentially BLOCK out and remove those negative

experiences from her memory. She will literally believe they didn’t exist.

That is why many cases of molestation, sexual harassment and rape go

unreported. Her mental mechanism prevents her from confronting the

memory.

This allows her to still view sex as an incredibly powerful, positive and

pleasurable event. In my experience, and in the experience of many of my

trainers, Deniers are much more immersed in sex, and go a lot deeper into

the feelings than Justifiers do.

And for that reason – it can be a more satisfying relationship in many

ways. Having sex with a Denier is more special and unique because they

have had far fewer sexual partners.

Quite often Deniers have a strong religious background as well. The

religious training tends to compartmentalize the different areas of her life,

and she will have much stronger mental filters to keep things separate.

This allows Deniers to have a tendency to sometimes live double lives, and

do so very effectively.

I once dated a girl who was a Denier, and I was with her for a full five

years before finding out that she was once raped by a guy many years

before. She never included this incident when she talked about her sexual

past and did not count it when she told me how many guys she was with.

Now of course I never held this against her, and in fact I was very

understanding… But what’s interesting is this: It wasn’t until I started this

research and had a very deep understanding of the female mind that she

brought it up... And it was something she sensed in me – it wasn’t that the

project prompted me to ask her about it.

And that is something that you can expect to happen in your life as

well… as you get deeper into this system, you will find women becoming

more and more open and honest with you. They will sense that you “are

one of them” and things that she would NEVER tell other guys will be

put on the table.

And no, it’s not all stuff you don’t want to hear – there are some AMAZING

benefits to being in this “secret society”. Women will be much more open

to letting you have multiple relationships, casual / no strings attached

relationships, and they will feel much more comfortable showing you the

full spectrum of their sexuality.

That’s beside the point. Let’s get back to Deniers. There are definitely

some downsides to Deniers. First of all, and this applies to ALL women

but women, but women will sometimes be more likely to lie to you the

more they like you.

Why? They lie because they can and they will be more concerned with

maintaining a certain perception if they like you. There’s more to lose if

you don’t approve of their image.

And – if they cheat (which is actually less likely to happen than with

a Justifier) they will be FAR less likely to let you find out. Usually it

will just be a onetime thing, and they will suppress the memory as if it

never happened.

That is something that women are MUCH better than men at. They are

very aware of how they are being perceived at all times – especially

Deniers.

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