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Audio Title: Recording 3

Transcribed: April 21, 2010 | Audio Length: 02:15:00 : Billable 01:01:00

Everything You Need to Know about Sexual Framing

Okay, guys. It's 6:00 pm, so I'm going to start now and we will be ready in just a

couple seconds to start revealing the Complete Guide to Sexual Framing.

All right, let's talk about Everything You Need to Know About Sexual Framing. The

first thing we have to talk about, obviously, is what are sexual frames? So frames,

in my definition that we are going to be using throughout this call, frames define the

interactions. They are the underlying meaning beneath the interaction. So sexual

frames are going to be underlying meanings that we're going to set up that work

towards the overall goal of us and the girl having sex; so when you're setting

sexual frames you're going to be setting frames that define the interaction in a way

that makes it normal and natural and very, very comfortable for the woman to get

sexual with you right away.

These things we're going to be talking about are going to be used through a couple

of different devices, but the overall point is, we're shaping behaviors. What

happens with people is, people generally have very malleable frames. What that

means, is that if you tell a person they're one way, and it's complimentary, meaning

it flatters our ego and we want to believe that we're cool and we have that

characteristic, we're going to accept that and then the principle of commitment and

consistency which we talked about on the last call, kicks in, and women and people

in general are going to be consistent once those frames are set. Meaning, if you tell

a woman that she's one way, and that one way is conducive towards getting her

into bed quickly, and she accepts it, she doesn’t reject it or break the frame, then

you've now set frame and you're moving along with that as an accepted definition

of herself or you, or the two of you together.

So we'll talk about all that stuff in this call. And the great thing about sexual frames

is that once you get rolling with them, they build a lot of momentum. Sexual frames

build upon each other, and in this audio I'm going to tell you exactly how to build

frames in a specific way that allows you to have these frames kind of move – and

shift onto each other, and build stronger and stronger frames, because you'll see

the frames we're setting, they do a really good job of opening up a place where the

objections to sex are no longer there. It's been described so people watching you

do stuff like this is like a spider web, or you just basically, everything the girl does

buys more and more into the frames when you get good at framing things sexually

and framing her, you and the two of you, and the interaction in a nature that it

makes sense. And you'll see what these things are, whether it's telling a girl she's

independent, or you know, framing her as someone who's in control of her sex life

and doesn’t get cock-blocked or, you know, framing her as someone who's sexual

aggressive.

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So there are a lot of things and a lot of thought went into this, years and years of

thought. When I first started coming up with his material the only three frames we

had, that came from my buddy, Captain Jack, where she's sexually aggressive, we

are non-judgmental, and both of us are good at keeping secrets, and now there's

14 frames that we're going to go through in this call with word-for-word descriptions

of the routines, how to set them and a general idea of which frames build on the

other ones, and what order you're going to be sending them in.

So with all that said, let's get right into it. When does sexual framing begin? So

there's a short answer and a long answer based on your experience level. The

short answer is after you have attraction. You don’t want to start using the sexual

framing material in the beginning because it's not going to hook as well, it's not

going to be very interesting and engaging or emotionally stimulating. Any of those

things that build sexual attraction; that's why the last audio that we had was on

sexual attraction, because if you can't build sexual attraction, then setting sexual

frames isn’t really going to help. So after you have sexual attraction during the kind

of qualification and comfort parts of a pick up that's when it's going to happen.

Now, the longer answer is that you should try to sexually frame when you think you

can get away with it. So, if you have a sense that maybe this girl is really into you,

or you have a sense that this particular girl is really sexual, or you have an idea

that, you know, for some reason you just think you can get away with throwing

some sexual framing out there, try it. Experiment with but don’t be surprised if it

creeps girls out, especially if you don’t have that good of social intelligence and

social calibration. If you want to be safe with it, after you have attraction, when you

can tell the girl likes you, that's when it's time to sexually frame. But if you're trying

to get better and you want to improve how fast you get laid, and stuff like that you

can try it a little earlier. But until you're comfortable with the material, I say, wait

until after attraction.

The real truth though is that you're going to kind of have to go Hard Knox University

on sexual framing you will have to creep some girls out by being overly sexual in

order to learn to calibrate so that you know where the lines are. Because you can

get incredibly sexual with a lot of women very quickly, and other women, you can't;

so learning how to differentiate between those two types of girls, and learning kind

of when it's appropriate to use this stuff and when it isn’t, is something that has to

be learned in the real world. There is no amount of training or practice, or anything

like that that's actually going to teach you how and when to sexually frame, you're

just going to have to go out there and try it on a regular basis.

Okay. I want to talk about the model for applying sexual frames. So sexual frames

are going to be applied to the you-her-us model. A little bit about the you, her, us

model if you haven’t learned from me before. Basically the you, her, us model is a

model of conversation, meaning that once you've started a conversation with a

group or an individual girl you're attracted to, there's only three topics of

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conversation, and it's you, her and us. So you're going to be talking about yourself,

talking about her, talking about the two of you in some sort of role play or fun, or

future situation, or commonalities—stuff like that. So sexual frames fall right in this

model, they're going to be sexual frames I'm going to be teaching today that apply

to you. These are going to be things like grounding stories. Grounding stories are

stories that demonstrate your personality, give a glimpse into your background,

how you came to be who you are and provide a woman with further clues about

how you're going to act in the future.

Also things like characteristics to demonstrate, talking about how you are a certain

type of person, or a certain way, is a good way to set sexual frames. Then, we're

going to have sexual frames that apply to her. These are going to be

characteristics you want to compliment and qualify the woman on. Things like

being independent, going for what she wants, being sexually aggressive with

someone she's attracted to. We're not going to say we are like that in every case,

but we're going to say she's like that. This is going to shape the way she behaves

and start to build momentum, to build increasingly, and increasingly sexual frames

that allow her to be comfortable exploring her sexuality.

And lastly, there is going to be us—and that characteristic that the two of have in

common that make us sexually and romantically compatible. The "us" stuff is where

a lot of chemistry and compatibility is going to really be discovered. Because a lot

of the time, as you start to experiment with the stuff more and more and with some

of the exercises I'm going to give you guys at the end of this call. You're going to

find that you start to become more and more like the person that you frame

yourself to be and you start to learn more and more how to frame things that are

more and more authentic about who you are and what kind of girls you want as you

go along. So there's a lot of good stuff that happens there.

Now, what I want to talk about next, is the four framing devices. As I said earlier

there's going to be four basic ways that we're going to be setting sexual frames.

The first one is stories. Stories are going to range from sexual stories like we talked

about during the sexual attraction module, to stories about a friend, to stories with a

metaphor, but we're going to tell stories to set frames and demonstrate

characteristics about ourselves and the girl that are going to be attractive.

Next we have what's known and compliment, statement of intent, release. These

are compliments. You're going to compliment the girl on things that she wants to be

complimented on that also happen to build frames for same-night lays and quick

sexual encounters. Then we're going to have bait, hook, reel, release rapports; and

bait, hook, reel, release rapports are the Classic Mystery Model for using

qualification, I added the rapport question, and I'll teach you how to use those

exactly to set sexual frames as well. And lastly, double binds, which are an NLP

influence-persuasion technique that basically forces a person to choose between

two acceptable frames for your purposes.

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So let's go a little bit more in detail on each of these devices. Because

understanding these devices is going to be really, really critical for the 14 sexual

frames when I start giving you the routines in a few minutes, because you're going

to need to understand which one of the devices each of one of these works with

and why; so sexual framing stories are generally going to fall into one of two

categories. We talked last time in the sexual attraction section about sexual story

telling. Sexual story telling definitely falls into that as well, but you're going to do

that a little earlier. What you're going to do when you're sexually framing

storytelling, is you're going to tell grounding stories which, these stories are going

to set the frames about us, and give the girl background information on how we're

going to act later.

So when we're grounding, we are giving them information about us that paints us in

the light we want to be seen as: non-judgmental, sexually comfortable, confident, et

cetera, et cetera. So these grounding stories are stories from your development, or

anecdotes about your growing up or personality quirks and flaws that allow the girl

to see who you are and give you a base to start framing her later on, and to set the

frames that we need to set right here.

Then we have metaphor stories, and metaphor stories exist to set a frame or teach

the girl something related to a frame. These are often going to be stories about a

friend, or something that happened to me that made me realize that I wanted to be

a little different in my ways that I deal with things, or that made me come to some

sort of life lesson. Metaphor stories are really powerful because you can convey a

lot of very heavy information, get a lot of vulnerability and get a lot of emotional

investment into your metaphor stories, so I'll talk about those as they come up with

our frames.

The second device is the compliment/standards framing; which is your

compliments statement of intent release. Compliment framing sets up the frame by

complimenting the woman on how we want her to act. So we're going to give her a

compliment that fits one of the sexual frames we want to set. Like I said before

women want to believe – people want to believe good things about themselves. So

if you compliment a woman on a type of behavior she demonstrated, or on an

intuition or hunch you have about her, and she likes you, she's going to be really,

really happy to accept that compliment and then, what we want to do is we want to

escalate and then release the tension. So compliments are really good if you then

use them as momentum to escalate and then back off your escalation. So you're

going to escalate using statement of intent. A statement of intent is literally exactly

what it sounds like. You're going to clear some sort of romantic or sexual intent for

the girl. Things like— I'm hitting on you. You're sexy, I want to make out with you.

I'm totally trying to get in your pants —that kind of stuff.

And then immediately before the girl can react, we're going to release with a non

sequitur tease. Something like— too bad you're such a dork . And the purpose that

exists is that we're going to put a little push-pull there, right. We're now using the

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compliment as a complex kind of push-pull where we are going to get the girl to

accept our statement of intent but then she's not going to get freaked out by it

because we're going to release. So there's nothing for her to object to. Remember,

with statement of intent from the last lesson. Statements of intent are always in the

future, you never give her anything to reject right then. Like you'd never say— I

want to kiss you right now . You would say— I'm thinking about kissing you, but I

know that's not appropriate. Get away from me . Right, if there's nothing for her to

reject then you just keep rolling and gaining momentum.

Okay, the next part of compliment/standards framing is standards framing.

Standards framing is great because it implies a relationship and gives the girl a

reward for framing herself. This is where you're going to ask questions that you

would only ask if there was some sort of romantic, or dating intent behind it. Things

like— You're not the jealous type, right? You're not a dramatic girl, right? You're not

a typical San Diego party girl, right? Things where by asking – the very act of

asking the question, if the girl is not interested in you she'll reject you with some

sort of— I have a boyfriend —or something like that. Or— I'm not available . But if she

accepts stuff like this you're now rolling towards very, very big amounts of

compliance, because girls just don’t answer those kinds of questions that kind of

direct— I have standards and I'm looking for this type of girl-- question with guys

they're not interested in.

Next we have bait, hook, reel, release rapport. So real quickly I'll go through the

model of bait, hook, reel, release rapport. This is a qualification mechanism which

gives us a great way to reward girls for accepting our frames. There is going to be

different kinds of hoops. There are small hoops, medium hoops, and large hoops.

For the sake of sexual framing we’re going to focus just on small hoops which are

positive female stereotypes that are yes or no questions. So what we are going to

do is we are going to bait. And when we bait, we are going to ask the girl to kind of

give us something about herself that we can work with. All right, so I might

something like— Are you a good friend? The hook is when she answers. If she

answers in the affirmative, she qualifies herself, we reel her in with a compliment.

You go— Oh, great, I love girls who are really friends, because I think the way you

treat your friends is like a really clear image into how you treat people in general.

And so if a girl has really close, loyal friends, then I know she's like a good person.

I don’t trust girls who don’t have female friends; right . And then – that's my reel,

that's my compliment.

Then if I need to, you don’t always have to release, the release is only if the girl

gets uncomfortable, I'll again use a non sequitur tease— I hate you, you suck . And

then I'll ask a rapport question. I'd be like— Okay, so how long have you been

friends with your best friend? And then when she answers that I’ll talk about my

best friend because when you do rapport, remember, you ask a rapport question

and then you answer your own question. So if she doesn’t answer the question,

she's like— Oh, I don’t know —or if she starts to think, answer your own question

first.

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