Tahnee DVD
10/1/04
TR Tony Robbins
CM Cloe Madanes
T Tahnee
MN Male Narrator
CM Our emotions are the driving force that determines the quality of our lives. Everyone is capable of experiencing the whole range of human emotions, yet many people allow themselves to experience only a narrow range. One person may go from feeling sad to angry to sad again, while another may go from feeling love to joy, and someone else may regularly experience fear, anxiety, and pain. It is characteristic of western culture to believe that our emotions are outside of our control. Most people believe that the depressed person is simply depressed, does nothing to deliberately bring on that state, and therefore cannot do anything to change it. Similarly, the happy person simply has a happy disposition and is also not responsible for bringing on that state.
We seem to believe that our emotions are determined by a mysterious predisposition. The truth is emotions do not come to us. We go to them. If you regularly experience anger, sadness, guilt, or fear, instead of joy, gratitude, compassion, and excitement, this is because these emotions meet certain needs within you. Fortunately it is possible to make a conscious choice about your emotions. In this film Anthony Robbins will demonstrate how to understand your emotional patterns, the needs they meet within you, and how to make a conscious choice about the emotions you want to experience.
We begin our story with Anthon Robbins speaking at a conference before 3,000 people. In order to show how quickly people can change their emotions, he asks for a show of hands from those who are experiencing depression. Tahnee is an attractive intelligent young woman who uses depression to get sympathy and love. However, she gets caught up in the idea of being depressed and ends up feeling unhappy and alienating those around her.
Using human needs psychology, Robbins will illusidate how Tahnee’s emotional patterns function to bring on suffering. By clarifying these core emotional patterns, Tahnee is able to find the self-awareness necessary to avoid using depression and instead to make bold new decisions.
Robbins will first demonstrate the principal of the triad.
CAPTION: Principle of the Triad
All behaviors, including emotions, consist of three parts working together.
GRAPHICS: At the top of the page is Principle of the Triad and below is a large triangle. The top of the triangle are the words Physiology and Posture. To the right bottom angle of the triangle are the words Mental Focus and to the left bottom angle of the triangle is the word Language.
CM All behaviors, including emotions, consist of three parts working together: patterns of physiology and posture, patterns of mental focus, and language patterns. In order to be depressed, a person must assume a certain posture, focus on certain specific things, and use certain specific language patterns that lead to depression. Robbins will ask Tahnee to deliberately put herself into a state of depression so that the audience can see what patterns of physiology, focus, and language are necessary for her to feel depressed.
TR Okay, where’s the lady right here who just raised her hand? I just saw you. Yes, ma’am. Would you stand up for a moment? [Applause] What’s your name? I’m sorry. Tahnee—could we get a microphone for Tahnee. Now Tahnee, now you don’t look very depressed right now. Are you really depressed right now?
T Yes.
TR You are. I see. How depressed are you on a zero to ten scale? Ten is totally depressed, want to kill yourself, zero is not depressed at all.
T About an eight.
TR About an eight. Interesting.
TR And um, you’re feeling that right now?
T Actually I’m doing pretty good since I’ve been here.
TR Yeah, you’re doing better right now. How many saw she was not depressed just now? Let met see a show of hands if you saw it. [Applause] Okay, but you could get there if you, if you wanted to, right?
T Yeah.
TR Right now you’re not actually depressed. What are you feeling right now?
T Hopeful.
TR Hopeful. By the way, how many saw that in her body? [Applause] Right?
CM When talking to Robbins, Tahnee is momentarily hopeful. Robbins points out that when Tahnee feels emotional states, these states are linked to physiological patterns in her body.
TR Now I want you to notice—I want you to notice Tahnee’s physiology right now when she’s hopeful. If you notice, she’s got one arm here, but the other one is loose. And she’s smiling, and if you notice, her head—her shoulders are back a little bit—not all the way, but a little bit—and her head is kind bouncing like this. That’s called hopeful for her. You can see now it’s even more than hopeful right now. There’s a different feeling she just had as I point this out. Okay? Now, that’s not depressed. And she smiled. How many of you felt when she took the microphone she was not depressed? Let me see a show of hands. Now how come 3,000 people all knew that? Because you’re all natural psychologists, and you know that is not depression.
Now you can fake somewhat, but if you’re totally depressed, you couldn’t have smiled as big as she did, and she would have been not in the same position. Now what I’d like you to do for me is I’d like you to get depressed because you were depressed earlier tonight I assume, or earlier today. Is that right?
T Mm hmm.
TR Okay, can you get depressed for me?
T It’s pretty easy.
TR Okay, show me how to do it because I’m not very successful at this. Really get depressed right now. I mean it for, for real. Get really depressed. Do what you do with your body when you’re really depressed. There you go.
And now I want you to double the depression—whatever you got to do. Do what you do with your body when you’re twice as depressed. Focus on what you focus on when you’re twice as depressed. Say to yourself what you say—there you go—when you’re really depressed. Say it in the tone of voice you use when you’re really depressed. How depressed are you right now, zero to ten? Stay in that state, and just tell me how depressed, zero to ten?
T Pretty depressed.
TR Where are you? Ten is want to kill yourself. Zero is not depressed at all. Where are you?
T About a nine.
TR About an eight?
T A nine.
TR Nine. Okay, now stay there in that state so we can learn something. How many saw her change her physiology radically to go in depression? Raise your hand. What did she specifically do to go from hopeful to depressed? By the way, how fast did she go from hopeful to depressed? How fast? In a heartbeat. What’d she change? Someone tell me. Posture—what part? What happened? Where did her head go? Head’s down. What else changed? Stay in that—oh, stay depressed. You’re going to screw this up. Stay depressed. I don’t want you getting happy on me. [Laughter] Don't you get happy on me. You stay depressed, damn it.
CM Robbins has demonstrated how quickly Tahnee can take herself from hopeful to depressed, and then to laughter. He pretends to be angry and disappointed that she cannot maintain her depression, and he will use strong language to emphasize this pretend.
TR Don’t you start smiling and s—t. That’ll f—k the whole thing up. [Laughter] Laughing is the worst thing you can do to be—you stop laughing, bitch. [Laughter] Don't you smile. Go back to depression. Come on. Give me a little help here. That’s it. That’s it. Good. Get that hand back up. Good. That’s good. That helps. How many noticed that hands are really important to the depression thing? So she dropped her head. What happened to her breathing? Full or shallow? Started to get shallow. Heads down. What happened to her shoulders? Down. Go—stay there. Stay there. Down, right? So shallow breathing, head down—what else did you notice? Come on, what else did you notice? She started squeezing her hand on that microphone tight. Did you notice that? Tension—tapping the microphone—that tension. What else did she do to get into that state? What’d she finally do? That’s right. She kind leaned down, crouched down, and brought her hand up to her head.
CM Now that Robbins has pointed out the physiological pattern in Tahnee’s depression, he will ask her what she focuses on in order to feel depressed.
TR Now that’s just the physical side. Now as you stay in this state, tell me what are you focusing on to be depressed at level nine?
T My lack of happiness.
TR Your lack of happiness.
T Mm, hmm.
TR And when you say you’re focused on your lack of happiness, what do you picture it? What do you think about?
T My not being able to stop crying a lot lately.
TR Not being able to stop crying. And what do you think about that makes you remember that you’re not able to stop crying? Could you get to crying for us? Could you get that depressed? Oh, come on. You could do it. If you’re able to get to the place of not being able to stop, let’s go there. That’s a much better example.
T Not, uh, not being able to put my past behind me.
TR Not be able to put your pat behind you. What do you focus on in your past in order to be depressed? Just say it.
T My ah, my lack of trust in people.
TR Your lack of trust in people, or in men?
T Men.
TR Bet you’re glad you volunteered for this, aren’t you? [Laughter] By the way, I’m a man. [Laughter]
CM Tahnee put herself again in a depressed state through her physical posture, her breathing, and her thought process. Robbins will now humorously provoke her into another emotional state to continue to show how easy it is to go from one emotional state to another.
TR What does that microphone remind you of? [Laughter] You’re not looking too depressed now. [Laughter] What are you feeling? [Laughter] That’s a new state. What are you feeling right now?
T I feel a little pissed.
TR Yeah, that’s what I thought. [Laughter] By the way, pissed is much better than depressed. Notice what happens when you get pissed. What’d she do? She brought her head back up and her shoulders back up. She’s still tense, but she’s like, “Don't f—k with me.” [Laughter] Which is a lot different than, “I’m helpless and I might not be able to put my past behind me.” So pissed might be a more useful state. It’s certainly not the end all and be all, but she can get out of depression and go pissed real quickly. In fact, I bet you’ve done this plenty of times. When she gets tired of being sad she gets pissed. Am I right?
TR I call this a crazy-eight. She gets really depressed inside and feels helpless. Then she gets tired of feeling that feeling. I’ll explain why later. And then she gets pissed, which makes her feel strong for short time. And then she’s tired of being pissed, so she goes back to connecting with herself and feeling sad again. Then she gets tired of that and she gets pissed. True or false? So this is a very simple pattern, and it’s not unique. And she’s good at it because she’s practiced it for years. True?
T I’m a master.
TR Yes, I can see that. And she’s proud of it. I’m a f—king master.
CM For Tahnee, depression is way for her to connect and commiserate with herself.
GRAPHICS: At the top of the screen are the words The Crazy Eight.
Below the heading The Crazy Eight is an eight turned on it’s side with the words Depression & Connection located at the top left side of the sideways eight and the words Anger & Significant located at the top right side of the sideways eight.
CM However, when this depression begins to make her feel too weak, she snaps out of it with anger. This emotional pattern of alternating between sadness and anger is called a crazy-eight. Many people live most of their lives alternating between these two emotions.
TR Especially when some guy gives me s—t. Oh, yes. I see. Let’s go back to depressed, though, because it’s so much more fun. Go back to depressed—depressed. Notice she knows exactly where to go. Does she know what to do to get depressed, yes or no? She would have you believe it happens to her, when all I do is tell her to do it and she goes, “Okay, I know exactly.” Go ahead, get depressed. Get back to nine level of depression again. Don't go to ten.
T Thanks.
TR You nod your head when you’re back to nine. Focus on what you focus on.
T Is this the Freudian thing?
TR What’s that?
TR I don't know. [Laughter] you tell me. All I know is you keep twisting that thing real tight. [Laughter] You’re rubbing it off now? Is that what you’re doing here? [Laughter] Okay, get back to that depression thing. Come on, get back to that depression thing—to level eight. Nod when you’re there. Okay?
Tell me what you’re focusing on right now to be depressed at level eight. What are you picturing? What are you, what are you focusing on? What are you remembering specifically to be depressed at level eight or nine?
T I don't know.
TR Pardon me.
T I don’t know.
TR You’re not there? What are you focused on, the men you can't trust from your past? Now by the way, keep staying in that state. How many noticed the pattern that’s different with her head when she’s hopeful than when she’s depressed, a very simple pattern? Raise your hand if you’ve seen it. What does she do with her head continuously when she’s depressed and frustrated? When she was hopeful, what was she doing with her head? How many saw that pattern? That’s universal, by the way. What do you say to yourself to be depressed like this? Just say out loud what you’re saying your head when you’re really depressed.
CM When people experience emotions, they are actually saying things to themselves silently. Although not spoken out loud, these language patterns have a powerful influence on our emotions. While asking her to intensify her depression, Robbins asks Tahnee to say out loud what she’s thinking.
T I am so pathetic.
TR I am so pathetic. Say it in the tone of voice you say it when you stay depressed though.
T I’m so f—king pathetic.
TR You’re so f—king pathetic. So f—k is a word you know how to use.
T Oh yeah.
TR Yes. Good. What else do you say besides you’re so f—king pathetic? To really be depressed, what do you got to say to yourself—really depressed, nine? Say it in the tone of voice you say it when you’re that depressed.
T And I don’t want to live my life this way.
TR What else do you say? You’re so pathetic. I don't want to live my life this way. Is there a tone of voice here, ladies and gentlemen? Yes or no? Loud or quiet? Up tone, or down? Cry in the voice or not? What else do you say to stay depressed at level nine? Do you ever get depressed at ten, like where you want to kill yourself? No?
T No.
TR S—t. I thought we had a good suicide we could deal with here.
T Sorry to disappoint you.
TR What the f—k are you doing smiling again? [Laughter] What are you feeling right now?
T I want to kick your ass. [Laughter]
TR Come on baby. Notice, how fast can we take her from depression? How fast can we take her out of depression? How fast? Two seconds. If you f—k with her depression, she’s pissed off at you. [Laughter] I’m sitting here being depressed, and you take me out of it. You bastard. I’ll take you out. I’ll come out of my depression when I’m ready. [Laughter] Everybody repeat after me. Mmm, something to think about.
CM Tahnee resents it when Robbins interferes with her depression because she has been using depression to satisfy an emotional need. Now that she sees the way that she uses depression, she can think of new ways to snap out of it other than anger.
TR So we now know what she does when she’s pissed and we know what she does when she’s depressed, and she seems to snap back. Let’s go back to hopeful for a second. [Laughter]
T You got me.
TR You’re, you’re good. [Laughter] You’re good.
T This is why you get paid the big bucks.
TR That’s right, honey. [Laughter] Now notice, how many, how many recognize the physiology of hopeful when she went there? Raise your hand if you recogni...
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